Tell it Tuesday w/ B. Parker | Why Does It Seem Like a Sin That I’m Single?

Everyone is so focused on dating. Everyone wants a title, and to have someone they can call theirs. It’s starting to feel like a competition. Everyone wants to out do the next, and it’s just not something I’m interested in being a part of.

I’ve never cared much about dating. I’ve always believed that when God wanted me to date someone, He would make sure they entered my life. I didn’t see a need to search, and put myself in those situations.

Everyone now seems to be on a hunt, with dating apps, and such. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against dating apps, or dating events. I just think people try to put so much of dating into their own hands and force relationships with people just for a title, instead of letting things happen naturally, with God’s timing.

The perfect soul mate is naturally made just for you!

The perfect soul mate is naturally made just for you!

I won’t lie, it is hard waiting though. I’ll admit that there’s been points where I just wanted to get into a relationship with someone just to be dating. I was tired of waiting, but soon realized that rushing into things was not the answer.

So I went back to my original plan: Waiting on God.

Waiting, and waiting, and waiting. That’s what I feel like I’m doing.

The Struggle...

The Struggle…

Being single isn’t easy, and some people make it seem like it’s a breeze, but I’m not going to lie, and make it seem like it’s perfectly easy to do, because it’s not. Waiting on God is probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever decided to do. I’m not going to rush into a relationship just because society says I need a boyfriend. I’m not going to continue talking to someone who I feel like isn’t someone that God would want me to be with. I’m not going to try to force myself to have this life that God doesn’t want for me.

I’ve prayed, and prayed. And I’m still praying.


I have no clue when God is going to send a guy my way, but I’m not going to sit around moping and upset because I’m single. So many people ask me, honestly a few times a week, why I’m not dating. And most of the time they don’t understand my reasoning for it, but I’m waiting on God. When God sees fit for me to meet someone, then I’ll meet them. Until then, I’m going to continue living my life, better myself as a person, and living for God. That’s all I can do.

Being single is not a sign of defeat. Honestly, it’s a sign of strength. You are choosing to wait on God’s timing, which isn’t easy by any means.

This verse can be interpreted in many different ways, but to me, it shows us that dating someone just to date isn’t going to put you with the one God planned for you. God set aside someone just for you, and trying to find him by dating people who you don’t even think are a fit, isn’t going to work. Dating someone because you want a title, isn’t going to work out. Eventually it’ll crumble, and you’ll be back at square one.

2 Corinthian’s 6:14 – “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”


You do not need to be unequally yoked, meaning you do not need to date someone who isn’t  like yourself, and doesn’t believe the same things, and doesn’t have the same values. And God doesn’t want you to. Which is why He created someone just for you. And when it’s time for you to meet that person, they’ll come into your life. Whether that’s at school, a restaurant, through a mutual friend, and I even believe dating apps. I think God can use many different ways to allow you two to meet. And when it’s the right time, the meeting will happen. Until then, I choose to wait on God and not listen to society. God’s timing and His plans are always better than what society believes.

Tip from our Editor In Chief, Winnie C.,

“You don’t need to be thirsty for love but be open when God sends someone in your life. He/she may not look like what you think you want but exactly what you need.


Yours Truly,

Brittany Parker

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