Ok so I’ve heard a lot of kid-less young single and even older single people say, ” I can’t date anyone with kids.” Or the infamous hash tags on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter where people will shout out in joy about not having any kids.
It’s understandable to not want any children for personal reasons such as if you’re single, not financially stable or simply if you’re not mature enough to handle a child. But what I really want to get at is the people with children who don’t want to date someone with kids.
I can admit, I have been guilty of not wanting to date someone’s father even though I have a child. It’s not about him having a child, for me you never know what the mother is like. I’ve dated someone in the past who had twins and their mother was great. She was not the typical baby mama with the drama. She was actually nice. If every woman was like that, then hey I wouldn’t have a problem. But then there is the other case, where the child’s mother doesn’t want the father but also doesn’t want him with anyone else. Crazy right? Well it’s true. It happens. And that could be a reason why some women with child or not may not date men with kids. Because of the extra dramatic baggage aka baby mama drama. And hey there’s baby daddy drama too. Some men may not want a woman with a child because he’s uncomfortable knowing another man will be in her life forever. I believe it takes a lot of maturity, strength, communication and growth for a relationship to work with someone who has a child outside of their current relationship.
When as a single parent, you know how difficult the dating scene can be, it may seem scary to link your situation with someone else’s. especially since children are involved. You have to be very careful. Kids get attached easily just to the person you’re dating so just imagine if the person you’re dating has a child and they become bffs then you guys decide to break up. That is an emotional roller coaster. So there can be various reasons as to why single parents don’t want other single parents. I will not say count out dating someone with a kid. Just make sure you’re mature enough to handle it. If you’re not about that life, cool. But throwing a #teamnokids party is a bit tacky and insensitive. Single parents date each other and even end up marrying all the time so it’s possible depending on comfort level.
What are your thoughts?