Have you ever experienced a breakup to the point it was bad?
Like you didn’t deserve what happened to you in the relationship that caused the breakup bad? Fast forward some time and you notice that your ex is caught up in a similar if not the same exact situation as you were in with them? This, my friends, is relationship karma; and apparently, it’s a thing.
Many fans were hoping that Jennifer Anniston, ex wife of Academy Nominated Actor Brad Pitt, was playing on her Spotify playlist the day she and the world found out that Angelina Jolie had filed for divorce from Pitt.
Now what makes them a candidate for a karma relationship? Rumors flew that he had an affair with his onset costar on a recent film….which is reportedly what happened when Brad and Angelina met and filmed their classic: “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” over ten years ago. And now that the couple has split for unconfirmed reasons, those who were supporting “Team Jennifer,” even the New York Post’s Page Six, thought that she must have been having the best day ever.
Why? Because: karma.
Hopefully now you’re caught up and might have even thought about one or two people who you’ve witnessed go through relationship karma. Was that person you? I get it, no one wants to be slighted by someone they once loved truly, but is it really worth hoping, praying and plotting that the person who hurt you goes through the same thing?
We know the “reap what you sow” scripture (Galatians 6:7) like the back of our hand, but consider these other scriptures as well when you are tempted to speak ill of someone:
Pray for your enemies
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Jesus says in Matthew 5:44. Whether you’ve been through a recent heartbreak or still have unresolved hurts from the past, praying for those who hurt you is a million times better than seeking out karma.
One of those reasons is because we as God’s children are called to a higher standard than the “eye for an eye” concept back in the day. Instead we are called to pray that God helps them to release them from our hearts, and that they be delivered from whatever it is that causes them to do what they did. There’s always a spiritual element to people’s actions, so as you pray for them the Lord will take care of you.
God is your avenger.
We give karma more power than we really need to. Karma is not bigger than God, so we need to let God handle our situations in life when someone. “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19). Trust me; God does not play about covering His children as we see throughout the Bible. Someone messes with you? Oh He’s on the way!
That’s why we can’t credit karma or take vengeance into our own hands. If you continue reading Romans 12, you will have instructions on how to practically treat them. And that is not an easy thing to do, but it’s for your good.
Don’t rejoice when enemies fall.
This one is for the Team Jennifers out here: “Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, And do not let your heart be glad when he stumbles; Lest the Lord see it, and it displease Him, And He turn away His wrath from him” (Proverbs 24:17-18). I would hope that men and women who were truly spited in their past get to a place where they can be happy for when their ex moves on and not when they fail. That pettiness is what the world teaches us to respond with when we get this kind of news, but is developing us into mature disciples and, being lead by the Holy Spirit, you can move on with peace and grace towards those you wish hurt like they hurt you.
The best payback or karma in regards to relationships and past hurt is to ultimately become who God made you to be in your relationships. This version of you has released the past, the person/people and the hurt. This person does not entertain the rumors or drama, because they are content with their portion given by God.
Tatianah is on her journey to living life unapologetically, learn more about her debut book Journey to 30: A Single Woman’s Guide to Living Unapologetically Without Deadlines to be released this month!